We Were Born Together as Souls: What a Soulmate Truly Is

There is something I have rarely spoken about in detail.

When I was very young — long before I understood what it meant — my guides told me something that never left me:

“If you do not meet your soulmate on Earth, you will meet him in Heaven.”

At the time, I didn’t understand why they would say that.Why would I not meet him?Why would Heaven be necessary?

Years later, in the mid-1980s, I walked into a bar and met him.

Not in a cathedral. Not in meditation. Not in some ethereal vision.

A nightclub.

And in that moment, something recognized something.

We were supposed to meet again. That was the plan. But before I could return, a so-called “friend” created such chaos and humiliation that I never made it back in time.

His heart was broken.

So was mine.

And life moved on.

Or so I thought.

When Souls Remember

Years later, after he passed from this Earth, his soul came through me in a channeling.

And he confessed something that took my breath away.

He said:

“I knew you. I recognized you. You are my soulmate.”

He told me that even from that single meeting, he loved me.That he had always felt it. Even his guides confirmed it after his life review was over.

When we reviewed our lives together, he said something that made me smile through tears:

“We are the same. We argue the same. We decide the same. We love the same.”

That is what a soulmate is.

Not someone who completes you.

Not someone who rescues you.

But someone who mirrors you so clearly that you see yourself — without distortion.

How could you not love them completely until you love yourself wholly.

What Is a Soulmate, Really?

We misunderstand soulmates on Earth.

We think they are about romance, destiny, fireworks, and possession.

But from the soul level, it is much deeper.

A soulmate is someone:

• You were created with as a soul

• Who existed in your soul group before Earth

• Whose energy frequency matches yours in ways that are unmistakable

• Who makes you better simply by being who they are

• Who loves you for who you are — not what you do, not what you earn, not what you achieve

Soulmates don’t always get the fairy-tale ending on Earth.

Sometimes the lesson is timing.Sometimes the lesson is courage.Sometimes the lesson is letting go of interference.And sometimes… the reunion is simply delayed.

Earth Timing vs. Soul Timing

I was told as a child that if I did not meet him on Earth, I would meet him in Heaven.

And that is exactly what happened - well, both.

Yes, we crossed paths here. Yes, we recognized each other. But the fullness of who we were to one another did not unfold until he was in Spirit, and I as a Medium, well, I get the benefit of knowing him before I pass on from the earth.

And here is the truth that may surprise you:

There was no anger. No blame. No regret in the way humans carry it. We had blamed ourselves, not each other. We had cried out most of our tears but, I still have some left.

There was recognition, that it was not the challenges, but the similarities that summoned us together.

We chose to be born together as souls. That bond does not dissolve because of a missed meeting in a nightclub. Or the date we had planned the next day for the beach.

Soulmates are not about ownership. They are about resonance.

How Do You Define a Soulmate?

You define them as the ones who:

• Make you better than you were before you knew them

• Challenge you in the same way you challenge yourself

• Think like you

• Feel like you

• Love like you

They are not opposite forces.

They are aligned forces.

When he said, “We are the same,” he wasn’t speaking about habits.

He was speaking about essence.

We argue the same. We decide the same. We love the same.

We were born together as souls.

The Hard Truth About Soulmates

Here is something most people do not want to hear:

Not every soulmate is meant to stay on Earth with you.

Some awaken you. Some prepare you. Some mirror you. Some wait for you.

And some return to Spirit before the earthly chapter can unfold.

That does not mean the bond was less real.

It means the plan was larger than one lifetime.

A Question for You

If you met someone once — just once — and something was more than a draw, a choice, and a love…

If you have loved someone whose energy still feels present… and that love was returned to you more than you could imagine, so much that it took you by surprise.

If you have ever wondered why certain connections feel bigger than circumstance…. that the energy is the cause, his or hers and your own...

Ask yourself:

Was this soulmate energy?

Not someone who made you smaller.

Not someone who demanded you change who you are.

But someone who recognized you without explanation.

Soulmates are not found.

They are remembered. Both of you, remembering.

And sometimes… the reunion simply waits for Heaven.

— Anne St. John, Heaven’s Medium 💫. www.AnneStJohn.com