Is Mediumship Safe? A Grounded Explanation

“Is it safe?” is one of the most reasonable questions someone can ask about mediumship.

It’s also a question that deserves a real answer, not spiritual reassurance or fear-based warnings.

My answer comes from experience — not theory, not belief, and not a desire to persuade anyone.

In Miles Away, I was clear about where I began:

“I did not really know what Mediumship was or how to control it.”

That honesty matters, because safety doesn’t come from pretending this work is effortless.It comes from learning discernment, grounding, and responsibility.

Mediumship Is Not “Opening Yourself Up”

One of the biggest misconceptions is that mediumship means leaving yourself unprotected or inviting anything in. And I mean ANYTHING.

That’s not what real mediumship is.

Healthy mediumship is not passive. It is directed, conscious, and grounded.

You are not a doorway left open. You are a participant with boundaries. I have boundaries. My brother is a testy soul that gets annoyed when I do not do what he wants first. But I assure you, I have a mind of my own and just like any sibling rivalry, he doesn't get his way unless he is polite and good to me and my team in Spirit.

What Actually Makes Mediumship Unsafe

Mediumship becomes unsafe when:

• curiosity replaces grounding and when people in Spirit ask you to do the silliest things.

• ego replaces discernment by thinking it is all you without the help of the team in Spirit with you.

• fear replaces education - allowing fear in is a major source of painful problems.

• dependency replaces personal responsibility - imagine if you only did what people in Spirit told you to - it would be like giving up your free will!

Most negative experiences people describe are not caused by Spirit — they are caused by misinterpretation, lack of grounding, or emotional vulnerability without support.

That distinction is critical.

Mediumship Requires Maturity, Not Specialness

Another important truth: not everyone who senses things should immediately practice mediumship.

Sensitivity without grounding can overwhelm the nervous system. That’s not spiritual — it’s physiological.

In Miles Away, I also wrote:

“Mediumship in my view, is available to so many people.”

Available does not mean automatic. It means potential — developed through time, self-awareness, and responsibility. I sometimes offer classes, but if you are the class clown, you get booted out. Seriously.

Boundaries Are Not Unspiritual — They Are Essential

A grounded medium:

• chooses when and how communication occurs

• does not live in constant spiritual attention

• remains fully functional in everyday life

• does not allow Spirit to override personal agency

If someone tells you that Spirit demands access, that is not healthy mediumship.

True Spirit communication respects consent — on both sides.

What Safe Mediumship Feels Like

Safe mediumship does not feel chaotic.

It feels:

• steady

• calm

• emotionally regulated

• mentally clear

Even when the content of a message is serious or emotionally weighty.

If an experience creates panic, compulsion, or loss of control, the issue is not Spirit — it’s imbalance. That is true of people that are physical as well as those in Spirit.

A Note for the Curious (and the Cautious)

You do not need to practice mediumship to benefit from it.

Receiving a reading from a grounded, ethical medium is very different from trying to “open yourself up” on your own without understanding what you’re doing.

Safety is not about fear.It’s about education, boundaries, and self-respect.

A Closing Thought

Mediumship is not dangerous by nature. But like anything involving consciousness and emotion, it requires maturity.

When practiced responsibly, it does not destabilize your life. It integrates with it.

And integration — not escape — is the mark of something healthy.

Anne St. John, Heaven's Medium

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