How Mediumship Helps With Grief After Loss

Grief doesn’t arrive gently. It interrupts your sense of order, time, and identity. One moment you are who you were yesterday, and the next, nothing fits the same way.

When my brother died, grief wasn’t only sadness. It was disorientation. It was the sudden realization that the world no longer worked by the rules I had trusted.

In Miles Away, I wrote honestly about that moment:

“Nothing would ever be the same. I was in constant pain. I was dislodged from my thinking that everything would be ok.”

That sentence still holds the truth of grief better than anything I could soften for public comfort.

Grief Is Not a Problem to Be Fixed

One of the most damaging ideas we give grieving people is that healing means moving on. Grief does not move in straight lines, and it does not respond to pressure.

After loss, many people feel:

• emotionally unrecognizable to themselves

• disconnected from the life they were living

• quietly angry, even when surrounded by support

I experienced all of this. I also learned that grief does not mean love is gone — it means the relationship has changed without your consent.

Where Mediumship Enters (And Where It Does Not)

Mediumship does not erase grief. It does not bypass pain, nor should it try to.

What mediumship offers is continuity.

It helps the grieving heart understand that:

• love does not end with physical death

• consciousness does not disappear

• relationships do not vanish — they evolve

Mediumship does not replace mourning. It gives grief context.

“I Was on Both Sides of That Table”

What shaped my work most was not becoming a medium — it was becoming a grieving sister first.

In my book, I say:

“I was on both sides of that table.”

I know what it feels like to sit in loss.And I know what it feels like to later sit with others who are still there.

That matters.

Grief is not theoretical to me. Mediumship didn’t make me immune to it.

It made me responsible to it.

Mediumship and Grief Are Not About Comfort First

This may surprise people, but true healing doesn’t always begin with comfort.

Sometimes it begins with permission:

• permission to still miss them

• permission to still feel angry

• permission to feel unfinished

Mediumship does not rush that process. It respects it.

What it offers, over time, is the understanding that the bond continues — not as memory alone, but as connection.

What Healing Actually Looks Like

Healing after loss does not mean forgetting.It does not mean “being okay.” It means learning how to live with truth without collapsing under it.

Mediumship helped me understand that grief is not the opposite of love. It is evidence of it.

And when the relationship continues — even in a different form — grief no longer stands alone.

A Closing Thought for the Grieving Reader

If you are grieving:

• you are not broken

• you are not behind

• you are not doing this wrong

Loss changes people. It changed me.

And eventually, through grief, honesty, and Spirit, I learned that love does not disappear when someone dies — it asks to be understood differently.

That understanding does not come all at once.But it does come.

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In Peace,

Anne St. John, Heaven's Medium

www.AnneStJohn.com