Breaking Free from Spirit Control: How to Own Your Life and Choices

Have you ever felt as if your decisions were influenced by someone who has passed on? It’s more common than you might think. Many people report feeling the presence of their loved ones in spirit, especially during tough times. While this can be comforting, it can also become overwhelming if we let these spirits control our lives.

Take my experience with my brother, who tragically took his own life. Since his passing, I have often felt his presence, particularly when I faced difficult decisions. It felt as though he wanted to guide me, stepping in to take control when I felt lost. However, I had to firmly communicate my boundaries. I have my own life to lead, and I won’t allow anyone else to decide my path.

Life is a journey filled with opportunities for growth. Our challenges are not merely obstacles; they are chances to learn and evolve.

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Understanding Spirit Influence

Spirit influence can show up in many ways. Some people may feel a comforting connection to their loved ones, while others might sense a strong urge to follow a specific path pushed by those spirits. For instance, someone might suddenly feel inclined to change their career or relationship status, thinking it is their loved one steering them rather than their own desires.

To better understand this influence, think about the film An Officer and a Gentleman. The main character, played by Richard Gere, faces numerous challenges, from intense training to managing personal loss. Just as he has to own his decisions and not be swayed by external pressures, we must recognize our need for personal autonomy. And make the decisions to be the gentleman, the one that helps others as much as we help ourselves.

Acknowledging the presence of our loved ones in spirit can provide comfort without allowing them to control our choices. Balancing this connection while affirming our independence is key.

The Importance of Personal Responsibility

Owning our lives means making intentional choices that reflect who we truly are. If we allow spirits to guide our decisions unchecked, we risk losing touch with our true selves. By taking personal responsibility, we become the architects of our destinies rather than passive players in life.

For instance, if you inherited a family business and feel pressured to take it over, consider whether it aligns with your values. If your passion lies elsewhere, it’s important to honor that desire, even if it goes against family expectations. By choosing a path that fits your authentic self, you pay tribute to your loved ones by living fully.

A winding path is just like your journey of life

Embracing Challenges as Opportunities

Life is full of challenges, and our reactions to them define us. Much like the character in An Officer and a Gentleman, we can choose to rise to the occasion or let adversity defeat us.

Every challenge provides a valuable lesson. According to a survey by the American Psychological Association, 65% of adults believe that overcoming challenges builds character. For example, facing a tough unemployment period may lead to discovering a new passion, like starting a business or going back to school.

Instead of viewing obstacles as setbacks, try seeing them as opportunities to grow, learn, and help others as well. Our responses shape our resilience and ultimately guide our paths.

Setting Boundaries with Spirit

A vital step in reclaiming our lives involves setting clear boundaries with spirit influence. It is crucial to communicate our need for independence. Let your loved ones in spirit know that while their presence is appreciated, you need to make your choices.

Setting these boundaries does not reject their love. It enhances your relationship by allowing them to provide support without overstepping. Additionally, engage in practices like meditation or journaling, which can help ground you and differentiate your thoughts from external influences. Cultivating this clarity empowers you to make decisions that resonate with your core values.

Choosing Wisely

Finally, the decisions we make should serve our best interests and those of others around us. Approach decision-making with an open heart and a clear mind.

When considering a choice, ask yourself:

1. Does this decision reflect my values?

2. Will it contribute to my growth and the well-being of others?

   
   

By taking a moment for this reflection, you can make choices that are true to who you are, positively impacting both your life and those you love.

Guidance and direction in life needs to be evaluated and not followed blindly

Taking Charge of Your Path

Reclaiming your life means acknowledging the influence of loved ones in spirit while asserting your independence. By embracing challenges, setting firm boundaries, and making conscious choices, you can navigate your life with clarity and purpose.

You are the leading character in your own story. Honor the memories of those who have passed, but do not allow them to dictate your journey. Choose to be the officer or the gentleman of your life, caring for yourself and others while forging your path forward.

Your life is a unique journey, shaped by the choices you make. Embrace the lessons, establish your boundaries, and live authentically. The power to take ownership of your life and decisions lies with you.

Anne St. John, Heaven's Medium www.AnneStJohn.com