This is the story of a relationship that many have discovered, lived through and have found. The relationship of an empath and a narcissist.
Exploring the intricate dynamics between an empath and a narcissist unveils a complex interplay of emotions that plays out in many compelling real-life dramas. The patterns are real and an amazing interplay of one loving attraction that tends to remain toxic throughout the relationship. See if you can find you or someone you know here...
The Attraction
The empath's compassionate nature and the narcissist's charisma often create an initial magnetic pull, showcasing the allure of contrasting personalities. Because one is so loving, and wants to overcome any obstacle. Being persuaded is easy. The empath sees it as the kindest forgiving nature to be able to accept people as they are, and by over-giving of themselves, creating the standard of what they want back in return. The narcissist is always looking to be admired, and expecting others to raise to their high standards. Looking for the one that will admire them as much as they see themselves as to be admired. Drawn to that loving nurturing relationship, they expect the empath to be there for them and give freely of anything asked.
The Drama Unfolds
Beneath the surface of affection lies a power struggle where the empath's selflessness clashes with the narcissist's self-centered tendencies, resulting in a perpetual battle of wills. The empath attempts to pull the narcissist into a more sensitive role and become more about understanding and giving. Empaths are naturally giving, and narcissists are controlling and aggressively taking. Narcissists thrive off of the empaths selflessness, and that can lead to demanding empaths to do as they want and disregard the empaths best interests. The narcissist insists on their needs being met at all costs. They don't care if the empath benefits as long as they are being used to improve the narcissists social and personal standards.
The Rollercoaster Ride
A tumultuous journey ensues as the empath becomes entangled in the web of the narcissist's manipulative behaviors and psychological games, leading to emotional turmoil and confusion. Empaths often find it challenging to prioritize their own well-being in relationships, leading them to endure prolonged periods of emotional abuse, manipulation and often domestic violence. The empath's innate desire to help and heal others can make them susceptible to being taken advantage of by narcissists and toxic individuals. This dynamic can create a cycle of abuse where the empath feels trapped and unable to break free.
Furthermore, the narcissist is also concerned about how they will be perceived by others if they were to sever ties with the empath. They are deeply invested in maintaining a façade of strength and superiority, and the empath plays a crucial role in upholding this image. Without the empath by their side, the narcissist worries that they will appear weak, vulnerable, or incapable of managing on their own. This fear of being exposed as less than perfect drives the narcissist to cling onto the empath, even when it may be detrimental to both parties involved.
Finding the Light
Once the relationship has ended, there is a profound opportunity for healing. By delving into the nuances of this relationship, individuals can develop a heightened sense of self-awareness and emotional intelligence. They may learn to recognize patterns of behavior, establish healthier boundaries, and cultivate a greater sense of empathy and compassion for themselves and others.
Ultimately, navigating the empath-narcissist dynamic can be a transformative journey that challenges individuals to confront their own beliefs, values, and insecurities. It provides an opportunity for growth, healing, and personal evolution, paving the way for greater self-acceptance and a more profound connection with others.
The dynamic is a true journey of the soul; a path of discovery that is taken to show what you are capable of in over-caring for oneself or for others. Finding balance is the only way into the most profound relationship. Beginning with oneself, to love yourself as much as you love others and to love others to the degree that you love your own self.
Anne St. John is a psychic medium and life coach who can be booked by appointment for zoom, FaceTime and phone sessions at www.AnneStJohn.com
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